6. If it's a blind date, DON'T compare yourself to anyone famous, looks-wise.
Now we all know this never works the way we'd like it to. Sure, most of us all have someone famous we're compared to. With me, it's usually Jodie Foster meets Gillian Anderson. I can live with that. But personality-wise, apparently I'm Carla from Cheers, Mrs. Roper, and Elaine from Seinfeld all rolled into one. Those comparisons are obviously wrong...Ha! My point? Most people look like a more slightly skewed version of these famous stars. I have never met anyone who really looked like the fabulous celebrity they said they looked like. So proceed with caution. Unless, of course, you are drop dead gorgeous, then you can say the famous ones look like you...
7. DON'T check out other people!
Ah, nothing is more that a turn-off than to be out on a date with someone and notice him checking out the girl with the cleavage right in front of your face! It might not happen often, and it's usually another sign of insecurity, but if it does, I usually try to have a smart alecky comment handy, maybe something like "you know, if you hurry, you can get that girl to autograph the bucket of drool that's accumulating as we speak. Go ahead, I'll wait..."
8. DON'T drink too much!
The best example I can think of is to rent that classic gem 'Blind date' with Kim Basinger and Bruce Willis. She's the girl of his dreams until she has a bit too much champagne, at his prompting... Before you know it, he's lost his job, suit, apartment, car and reputation. It probably wouldn't go that far, but no-one likes to see you get that loose before they even get to know you. If the date sucks, then drink when you get home!
9. DON'T assume that he/she will automatically grab for the check.
I hear different stories on this one, but just to play it safe, no matter who invites whom, it's always a nice gesture to offer to pay for half the check even if you didn't do the asking. I suppose it works like this... If the date is going well, the asker will tell you not to be ridiculous and will grab the check, but if it's yet another date from hell, the asker will probably want the askee to cough up some cash. My personal philosophy is to always offer, as it is a new age and I do have a decent job. If he pays, and I like him, I'll offer something in return like a picnic or an invite for a home-cooked meal.
10. DON'T jump into the sack!
You know, the older I get, the more moralistic I become. Yeah, I know, it's a sign of old age. It scares me, and I've made a few mistakes, but this one I have to stand by. The thing is, I think this rule bothers men far more than women. Because, guys, if we like you a lot, and we see promise, we're going to lean towards wanting to sleep with you at some point. It doesn't mean we've had sexual relations with entire football teams, but we don't lose respect for you like you say you might do for us. The fact that men seem uncomfortable with sleeping with a potential Ms. Right on the first date is something I don't question, that's just the way it is. It's always better to savor anticipation.
Friday, April 16, 2010
Things You Shoudln't Do On The First Date....Vol. 2
Top Ten things NEVER to do on a first date !
1. DON'T wear something you don't feel drop dead gorgeous in.
How much fun can you have if you have to monitor how many bites of food because just one more might be the fatal one that bursts the seams on your skintight dress- like the Hoover Dam? And always having to remember not to raise your arm no matter what happens is no picnic because your last clean shirt has a hole in the armpit and you haven't seen a sewing kit since you last visited your grandmother in Toluca Lake...Why, that would be worse than this run-on sentence.
2. DON'T wear colored contacts on a first date.
One of my guy friends told me a story of a first date with a lovely women who possessed, you guessed it, the most beautiful eyes... He made sure to compliment her eyes more than once, and after that first date, they agreed to see each other again. Sure enough, the next time he saw her, he noticed that her eyes were just an average shade of gray, nothing special, (which was fine), but he had felt so embarrassed praising her on something that wasn't really hers, I guess it stuck with him, and they eventually drifted apart.
3. DON'T mention your last boyfriend/girlfriend six hundred times.
For that matter, don't mention anyone else of the opposite sex if you can help it. I remember one of my worst dates with a guy who had managed to talk about four different women he implied were interested in him at the time. Needless to say, that was the last date he had with me. It just comes off as insecurity. If the other person is on the date with you, chances are they find some value in you. You don't need to point out the fact that you are, in fact, desired by all.
4. DON'T talk about yourself too much.
It's true that one of the best ways you can get some one to pay rapt attention to you is to ask them lots of questions about themselves. It's amazing how well this works. Yet when you're nervous, you might have a tendency to babble on about your life endlessly, as you don't have to think that much to pull that information out of your head. And of course, we all know not to do this when we think about it. I can't remember ever hearing "Gee, she only wanted to talk about ME all night!...how boring!"
5. DON'T talk wistfully about how many children you'd like to have...
I've known men and women alike who do this. I feel it's important to find out if a possible relationship candidate shares your goals, but save it for a few dates down the line, after you've decided that you might actually have the potential to get along with this new person. Just concentrate on having fun for now!
1. DON'T wear something you don't feel drop dead gorgeous in.
How much fun can you have if you have to monitor how many bites of food because just one more might be the fatal one that bursts the seams on your skintight dress- like the Hoover Dam? And always having to remember not to raise your arm no matter what happens is no picnic because your last clean shirt has a hole in the armpit and you haven't seen a sewing kit since you last visited your grandmother in Toluca Lake...Why, that would be worse than this run-on sentence.
2. DON'T wear colored contacts on a first date.
One of my guy friends told me a story of a first date with a lovely women who possessed, you guessed it, the most beautiful eyes... He made sure to compliment her eyes more than once, and after that first date, they agreed to see each other again. Sure enough, the next time he saw her, he noticed that her eyes were just an average shade of gray, nothing special, (which was fine), but he had felt so embarrassed praising her on something that wasn't really hers, I guess it stuck with him, and they eventually drifted apart.
3. DON'T mention your last boyfriend/girlfriend six hundred times.
For that matter, don't mention anyone else of the opposite sex if you can help it. I remember one of my worst dates with a guy who had managed to talk about four different women he implied were interested in him at the time. Needless to say, that was the last date he had with me. It just comes off as insecurity. If the other person is on the date with you, chances are they find some value in you. You don't need to point out the fact that you are, in fact, desired by all.
4. DON'T talk about yourself too much.
It's true that one of the best ways you can get some one to pay rapt attention to you is to ask them lots of questions about themselves. It's amazing how well this works. Yet when you're nervous, you might have a tendency to babble on about your life endlessly, as you don't have to think that much to pull that information out of your head. And of course, we all know not to do this when we think about it. I can't remember ever hearing "Gee, she only wanted to talk about ME all night!...how boring!"
5. DON'T talk wistfully about how many children you'd like to have...
I've known men and women alike who do this. I feel it's important to find out if a possible relationship candidate shares your goals, but save it for a few dates down the line, after you've decided that you might actually have the potential to get along with this new person. Just concentrate on having fun for now!
Thursday, April 15, 2010
Tuesday, April 13, 2010
Guest Blogger Niki from www.lolamack.com
Alright so I'll year those who followed me got a man's perspective. However, as you know there is two signs to every coin and I thought it was only fitting that. I bring out a woman's perspective. That being said, I decided to let my good friend from www.lolamack.com bless my page with some of her knowledge. So enjoy.
So my close friend has asked me to write a little blog about relationships and dating. Of course this is a topic we are all too familiar with. But let’s narrow it down to the nitty gritty, let’s talk about the one thing all females have either encountered in their life time or heard many stories about. Men who cheat on their beloved girlfriends. Yes, we hear about this every day, it surrounds us through friends, music and celebrity life. It is so common that some don’t even see it as a negative impact on relationships. How so? Lets look at Mr. Tiger Woods, he cheated, and while the media takes hold of his life others justify his mistakes as being “normal” because “everyone does it”. So when do we press the brakes on this painful act of selfishness? I say it stops when we as ladies take control of our relationships and stop being so blinded by the truth. At this point you’re probably thinking, “What is she talking about” or” Just get to the point,” Well, it’s simple, a relationship should involve two participating partners that are willing to commit, trust and love each other EQUALLY. Now, ladies if you’re not doing you’re part in the relationship then your man will stray, and find someone who will explore their needs to the correct potential. No one is perfect, but if you are building a foundation with someone, there is no room for errors. What is the key to our missing link? COMMUNICATION. Some enter a relationship not fully understanding what is expected by the other participant, which leads to dysfunction (in more areas then one). So instead of weeping and breaking out the Beyonce songs, let’s tackle the expectations of each other and really be in tune with your partner. For example, in the beginning of the relationship it was bliss, and then things started to change. Yet this is an important aspect most ladies ignore. How do I know he is cheating? Well, we won’t turn into Inspector Gadget, but being straightforward, has his calls died down? Do you see him often? Is he all of a sudden busy? Does he still compliment you? Does he still leave those sweet messages on your voicemail? Do you feel a little void in the relationship? If your answers aren’t so pleasant then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate those expectations and communicate before Mr. Right becomes Mr. IHateYou, Hey I’m just saying…
Signing off, Lola Mack.
www.lolamack.com
So my close friend has asked me to write a little blog about relationships and dating. Of course this is a topic we are all too familiar with. But let’s narrow it down to the nitty gritty, let’s talk about the one thing all females have either encountered in their life time or heard many stories about. Men who cheat on their beloved girlfriends. Yes, we hear about this every day, it surrounds us through friends, music and celebrity life. It is so common that some don’t even see it as a negative impact on relationships. How so? Lets look at Mr. Tiger Woods, he cheated, and while the media takes hold of his life others justify his mistakes as being “normal” because “everyone does it”. So when do we press the brakes on this painful act of selfishness? I say it stops when we as ladies take control of our relationships and stop being so blinded by the truth. At this point you’re probably thinking, “What is she talking about” or” Just get to the point,” Well, it’s simple, a relationship should involve two participating partners that are willing to commit, trust and love each other EQUALLY. Now, ladies if you’re not doing you’re part in the relationship then your man will stray, and find someone who will explore their needs to the correct potential. No one is perfect, but if you are building a foundation with someone, there is no room for errors. What is the key to our missing link? COMMUNICATION. Some enter a relationship not fully understanding what is expected by the other participant, which leads to dysfunction (in more areas then one). So instead of weeping and breaking out the Beyonce songs, let’s tackle the expectations of each other and really be in tune with your partner. For example, in the beginning of the relationship it was bliss, and then things started to change. Yet this is an important aspect most ladies ignore. How do I know he is cheating? Well, we won’t turn into Inspector Gadget, but being straightforward, has his calls died down? Do you see him often? Is he all of a sudden busy? Does he still compliment you? Does he still leave those sweet messages on your voicemail? Do you feel a little void in the relationship? If your answers aren’t so pleasant then maybe it’s time to re-evaluate those expectations and communicate before Mr. Right becomes Mr. IHateYou, Hey I’m just saying…
Signing off, Lola Mack.
www.lolamack.com
Sunday, April 11, 2010
I’m Not Saying She’s A Gold Digger But She Ain’t Messing With No Broke Broke
So you are only now realizing your girlfriend is a gold digger and only likes you for your money. Well my friend that is your own fault. The biggest mistake men with money do is trying to attract women with money. That is like trying to attract a shark with blood they will come but then you are going to be in some serious trouble. A better tactic to getting women is showcasing attractive qualities that you know they may like and then later on letting them see the money you have. By doing this, you have ensured she likes you for you not the money. Too often I see guys taking females out to lavish places on the first date. There are two things wrong this with. 1. She will continue to expect this luxury dating practice especially if this was only the first date. 2. She can easily be more impressed with what you are doing rather than being impressed with you. The reason you don’t use money right form the start is so that you can better assess the type of person she is before you shower her with gifts etc.
Little Money?? Here is a list of cheap date places
1- The beach
If you're the type who likes to see what she's all about right away, then take her to the beach. This is the perfect way to enjoy the sun, show off your new swimsuit and see what she looks like in a bikini. And if all else fails, there is still enough eye candy to keep you busy.
2- Billiards
If you feel like you're the best thing to happen to billiards since the cue-stick after seeing Tom Cruise in The Color Of Money, why not invite her to play some pool with you? This is an interesting setup to secure a second date.You can raise the stakes by saying, "Whoever loses the game must cook supper for the other." And just like that, you've got yourself a second round of love.
3- Mini golf
If you can't tell the difference between a wedge and an iron, maybe miniature golf is the way to go. A cheap and fairly easy "sport," it allows for some physical contact when you have to give her a crash course on how to hold the putter
4- Picnic
Good first date ideas need not involve a second mortgage on your home. It can simply be a quiet get together that allows for stimulating conversation, such as a picnic, which is also a good venue for you to show off your sandwich-making skills and your sangria expertise.
5- Tuesday Night Movie
Try sneaking food in there or try sharing popcorn.
6- Roof terrace
Bringing your date to the highest point in the city can be exhilarating for both of you. Some hotels, restaurants or buildings have roof-top terraces for people to enjoy -- especially at night.
7- Trail Ride
Take bicycles or roller blades, pack a lunch and choose an easy trail ride or wander through some country roads. Stop often when you find something interesting to look at or just to rest and talk
8- Stay Home
Order some Chinese take-out, leave the TV off and spend some really intimate time together.
9- Watching Local Outdoor Plays
Check with your local parks and recreation for the schedule of summer dramatic and musical performances in the parks. Prepare a picnic supper, take in the concert, then go for a quiet stroll after the show.
10- Video Game Night
Dates are all about having fun and enjoying company. There is no better way than playing video games/board games with each other. That can’t be the whole date but add other things to it like a Blockbuster Night.
If you're the type who likes to see what she's all about right away, then take her to the beach. This is the perfect way to enjoy the sun, show off your new swimsuit and see what she looks like in a bikini. And if all else fails, there is still enough eye candy to keep you busy.
2- Billiards
If you feel like you're the best thing to happen to billiards since the cue-stick after seeing Tom Cruise in The Color Of Money, why not invite her to play some pool with you? This is an interesting setup to secure a second date.You can raise the stakes by saying, "Whoever loses the game must cook supper for the other." And just like that, you've got yourself a second round of love.
3- Mini golf
If you can't tell the difference between a wedge and an iron, maybe miniature golf is the way to go. A cheap and fairly easy "sport," it allows for some physical contact when you have to give her a crash course on how to hold the putter
4- Picnic
Good first date ideas need not involve a second mortgage on your home. It can simply be a quiet get together that allows for stimulating conversation, such as a picnic, which is also a good venue for you to show off your sandwich-making skills and your sangria expertise.
5- Tuesday Night Movie
Try sneaking food in there or try sharing popcorn.
6- Roof terrace
Bringing your date to the highest point in the city can be exhilarating for both of you. Some hotels, restaurants or buildings have roof-top terraces for people to enjoy -- especially at night.
7- Trail Ride
Take bicycles or roller blades, pack a lunch and choose an easy trail ride or wander through some country roads. Stop often when you find something interesting to look at or just to rest and talk
8- Stay Home
Order some Chinese take-out, leave the TV off and spend some really intimate time together.
9- Watching Local Outdoor Plays
Check with your local parks and recreation for the schedule of summer dramatic and musical performances in the parks. Prepare a picnic supper, take in the concert, then go for a quiet stroll after the show.
10- Video Game Night
Dates are all about having fun and enjoying company. There is no better way than playing video games/board games with each other. That can’t be the whole date but add other things to it like a Blockbuster Night.
Saturday, March 20, 2010
The Dreaded Friend Zone
This is an interesting topic that I constantly hear about so I decided to blog on it. There is a fundamental difference between men and women that I always noticed. Women think its okay to put a man in a friend zone. Well women, its not okay. Its bullshit actually. I see women all the time creating "boundaries" they expect men to adhere to. For example, he is my friend so we can't have sex but we can chill/hangout and go on "friendly dates". What the hell kind of crap is that?? That is like winning the lottery and then the following week dying. Its not fair. Unfortunately for you, men do not think that way at all. This situation is most difficult when a man has gone out of the way to ask you for your number if he meets you somewhere random. Once a man is going to ask you for your number he doesn't sit there thinking oh I can't wait to be this girls friend or man this girl is gonna make a great friend. There is only a few things he is thinking and none of that is related to friendship. Therefore, give the guy a chance and don't automatically put him in a friendship label.
Women always think they have a choice as to whether they can put a man in a friend zone and he has to stay there. Well sorry that shit never works for me. Unless we mutually decide to be friends be prepared to continue to be romanced to the point you begin to actually like me. I have been very successful in this tactic. Women need to realize they have to leave the door open to more possibilities or risk losing a great guy because you kept him as a friend and he got fed up with your placement of him in that friend zone. Too many times I see women with loser guys that they are not compatible with when they have a great guy under their nose that is a "friend". They always use the same excuse oh I don't want to jeopardize my friendship with (insert name here). That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Men are willing to jeopardize their friendship with a female for a lot less like Tim Hortons coffee, beer or sex. So why not just take a chance on it too.
The thing is you can't help who you like. Hence, Sandra Bullock and that Jesse James character. If you keep someone as a friend long enough and they are interested in you eventually they will get frustrated by the relationship and you are guaranteed to lose a person who was probably a great friend and would have been an even better boyfriend/girlfriend.
Anyway, the point I'm making is that if you deep down in your heart are even the least bit interested in someone called a "friend" give it a shot. You only live once besides men and women never make good friends and statistically speaking friendships between the opposite sex lasts significantly shorter than same sex friendships so you are really not losing anything. Sorry, I just made up those statistics. But it seems logical right.
Women always think they have a choice as to whether they can put a man in a friend zone and he has to stay there. Well sorry that shit never works for me. Unless we mutually decide to be friends be prepared to continue to be romanced to the point you begin to actually like me. I have been very successful in this tactic. Women need to realize they have to leave the door open to more possibilities or risk losing a great guy because you kept him as a friend and he got fed up with your placement of him in that friend zone. Too many times I see women with loser guys that they are not compatible with when they have a great guy under their nose that is a "friend". They always use the same excuse oh I don't want to jeopardize my friendship with (insert name here). That's the dumbest thing I've ever heard. Men are willing to jeopardize their friendship with a female for a lot less like Tim Hortons coffee, beer or sex. So why not just take a chance on it too.
The thing is you can't help who you like. Hence, Sandra Bullock and that Jesse James character. If you keep someone as a friend long enough and they are interested in you eventually they will get frustrated by the relationship and you are guaranteed to lose a person who was probably a great friend and would have been an even better boyfriend/girlfriend.
Anyway, the point I'm making is that if you deep down in your heart are even the least bit interested in someone called a "friend" give it a shot. You only live once besides men and women never make good friends and statistically speaking friendships between the opposite sex lasts significantly shorter than same sex friendships so you are really not losing anything. Sorry, I just made up those statistics. But it seems logical right.
Blogging My Second Date....How To Know If Your Date Is Going Well/Likes You
So I went on another date and decided as usual to blog about it. This was much more enjoyable then the previous infamous double date The reason I know it went well is because I have series of sings that tell me how well a date is gong. That being said I thought that it would be important to post these series of signs that help you know your date is going well.
1. She makes physical contact during the date
Small gestures like briefly touching your hand or your arm. Or legs rubbing against each other – more than can be considered coincidental. Physical contact is a sign someone feels comfortable with you and would like that physical contact. Not necessarily sex, so don’t get all excited and ask the waiter where the nearest place to get condoms is or open up the doors to the Ramping Shop. The touches are simply her way of letting you know she likes you.
.....My date did touch me multiple times and did did rub her legs against mine
2.Flow of conversation.
This isn’t always a good indicator – if she is nervous it may make her affect her, but generally if the conversations flow equally. So you are both talking – not you talking and her listening. Then it’s going well. For this one though you need to have at least 2 of the other signs. It is possible to meet someone who you can talk to but not be attracted to.
..... Conversation on my date was good. There were no long awkward pauses
3.There are references made to things she would like to show you.
Movies she would like so see with you or people she would like you to meet. This is a pretty obvious sign that she does see things progressing to the next level. Don’t panic - she isn’t picking out the china just yet.
.....She mentioned wanting to see Iron Man 2
4. She gives you a hug and/or kiss when you say goodbye. Doesn’t have to be a full on, tongue-down-throat-kiss. Can be a simple lip kiss. Take her lead on this one and don’t try shove your tongue between her pursed lips – you will go from hero to zero in 10 seconds! The kiss and/or hug is enough of a sign that she is likes you.
.....A gentleman doesn't kiss and tell. So since I'm not a gentleman so I will tell you I got one of the two.
5. She shares personal information about herself. Things like her family, her childhood, where she lives. Again a sign she is comfortable enough with you to share those things. It’s also a sign she is willing to be open with you.......This was hard to assess because she is generally an open person. So the stuff she told me I took it lightly
6. She is in no hurry to leave. If she lingers between courses, orders a second cup of coffee (or another bottle of wine). She is having a good time and doesn’t want to leave but doesn’t want to tell you that just yet, as she possible isn’t sure how you feel. So she tries to extend the meal for as long as she can. .....We went to two different places ie my secret dating place and dinner. Though the original plan was to only go to one place. Therefore, she was obviously in no rush to go home.
7. Eye contact.
Eye contact is vital. If she looks at you and can hold the eye contact she is definitely interested. Eyes tell a lot about people and she is trying to read you. Try not to look away. Hold her eyes (not literally). We did make eye contact numerous times. Then she would laugh wait does that mean she was laughing at me??
8. She is genuinely enjoying the date and pays attention to you
It is nor uncommon to find people on dates who spend more time on their blackberry as I learned the last time. However, if she seems to enjoying herself with multiple laughs and seems engaged then you are in a good place. However, try to be more interesting then her phone. The key with making a date interesting is that if she was unsure whether she liked you before an interesting date will make her come back to you again and will also tilt the scales in your favour. .....She seemed really engaged plus I'm a really funny person so its not hard to make a date enjoyable for me. Does that sound cocky? Who Cares.
1. She makes physical contact during the date
Small gestures like briefly touching your hand or your arm. Or legs rubbing against each other – more than can be considered coincidental. Physical contact is a sign someone feels comfortable with you and would like that physical contact. Not necessarily sex, so don’t get all excited and ask the waiter where the nearest place to get condoms is or open up the doors to the Ramping Shop. The touches are simply her way of letting you know she likes you.
.....My date did touch me multiple times and did did rub her legs against mine
2.Flow of conversation.
This isn’t always a good indicator – if she is nervous it may make her affect her, but generally if the conversations flow equally. So you are both talking – not you talking and her listening. Then it’s going well. For this one though you need to have at least 2 of the other signs. It is possible to meet someone who you can talk to but not be attracted to.
..... Conversation on my date was good. There were no long awkward pauses
3.There are references made to things she would like to show you.
Movies she would like so see with you or people she would like you to meet. This is a pretty obvious sign that she does see things progressing to the next level. Don’t panic - she isn’t picking out the china just yet.
.....She mentioned wanting to see Iron Man 2
4. She gives you a hug and/or kiss when you say goodbye. Doesn’t have to be a full on, tongue-down-throat-kiss. Can be a simple lip kiss. Take her lead on this one and don’t try shove your tongue between her pursed lips – you will go from hero to zero in 10 seconds! The kiss and/or hug is enough of a sign that she is likes you.
.....A gentleman doesn't kiss and tell. So since I'm not a gentleman so I will tell you I got one of the two.
5. She shares personal information about herself. Things like her family, her childhood, where she lives. Again a sign she is comfortable enough with you to share those things. It’s also a sign she is willing to be open with you.......This was hard to assess because she is generally an open person. So the stuff she told me I took it lightly
6. She is in no hurry to leave. If she lingers between courses, orders a second cup of coffee (or another bottle of wine). She is having a good time and doesn’t want to leave but doesn’t want to tell you that just yet, as she possible isn’t sure how you feel. So she tries to extend the meal for as long as she can. .....We went to two different places ie my secret dating place and dinner. Though the original plan was to only go to one place. Therefore, she was obviously in no rush to go home.
7. Eye contact.
Eye contact is vital. If she looks at you and can hold the eye contact she is definitely interested. Eyes tell a lot about people and she is trying to read you. Try not to look away. Hold her eyes (not literally). We did make eye contact numerous times. Then she would laugh wait does that mean she was laughing at me??
8. She is genuinely enjoying the date and pays attention to you
It is nor uncommon to find people on dates who spend more time on their blackberry as I learned the last time. However, if she seems to enjoying herself with multiple laughs and seems engaged then you are in a good place. However, try to be more interesting then her phone. The key with making a date interesting is that if she was unsure whether she liked you before an interesting date will make her come back to you again and will also tilt the scales in your favour. .....She seemed really engaged plus I'm a really funny person so its not hard to make a date enjoyable for me. Does that sound cocky? Who Cares.
Monday, March 8, 2010
Sex On The First Date???? Ummmm Sure
There is always two perspective and standards in regards to this topic. Usually women who give it up on first date are seen as hos or labelled as “easy.” Meanwhile, men are labelled as players for behaving in the same manner. Do I agree with this? Not necessarily but such as life and therefore double standards exist which me should probably do something about but don’t. That being said, I will look at these two dynamics without bias.
If you’re a woman, should you have sex on the first date? No you shouldn’t. However, as usual what I say is just my opinion. There are reasons to this madness though. First of all guys talk, and the moment you have sex with him all his friends know and your name is going to get around as the girl that’s easy. Therefore, guys won’t really want to go out with you but they would merely try and date you with the hopes of smashing. If you really have respect for yourself then you won’t do it.
Moreover, it takes away the challenge for guys and the whole mystique. Part of the fun of finally having sex with someone is the actual chase. When that’s’ gone its not the same. Well I lie it still is the same but there is less fun in it. To the women who do it because they hope guys will like them more (I don’t want to sound like an after school special) but…….that is stupid and your eventually going to be on Maury Povich.
To all the guys who have do that. Congratulations. However, just remember this, would you want someone to do that to your sister, or mom or aunt? Also, if you smashed on the first date how many people do you think she’s done that with already. Wait, was this too bias?
This doesn’t mean a woman can’t act like men and have sex with guys on the first date if she really wants to. She just has to be prepared for the consequences and repercussions like the rumours and the gossip.
The challenge of course is willpower. I confess to getting a lot of pleasure out of convincing women to go back on their insistence that "there's NO way we're having sex tonight." Having done precisely what I'm describing above—bringing out my best in hopes of bringing out their wildest—I can't help but relish it if my date caves on her early commitment. But you know what? It made the actual act better for me—and the evening more fun overall. And for her? She got a few hours of me trying my hardest, and probably got better boot-knocking than she would have had we just sloshed back to my place and done it. Even if you find yourself saying yes after an evening of saying no, your time in bed (and the date as a whole) will benefit from whatever deferral you were able to muster. The fact is: If you're compatible, you'll eventually make it to sex, but the longer you put it off (as long as nobody is getting too impatient), the better you'll be at all the non-sexual parts of loving—all the stuff that adds and enriches the sublime dance—and that will pay dividends down the line.
If you’re a woman, should you have sex on the first date? No you shouldn’t. However, as usual what I say is just my opinion. There are reasons to this madness though. First of all guys talk, and the moment you have sex with him all his friends know and your name is going to get around as the girl that’s easy. Therefore, guys won’t really want to go out with you but they would merely try and date you with the hopes of smashing. If you really have respect for yourself then you won’t do it.
Moreover, it takes away the challenge for guys and the whole mystique. Part of the fun of finally having sex with someone is the actual chase. When that’s’ gone its not the same. Well I lie it still is the same but there is less fun in it. To the women who do it because they hope guys will like them more (I don’t want to sound like an after school special) but…….that is stupid and your eventually going to be on Maury Povich.
To all the guys who have do that. Congratulations. However, just remember this, would you want someone to do that to your sister, or mom or aunt? Also, if you smashed on the first date how many people do you think she’s done that with already. Wait, was this too bias?
This doesn’t mean a woman can’t act like men and have sex with guys on the first date if she really wants to. She just has to be prepared for the consequences and repercussions like the rumours and the gossip.
The challenge of course is willpower. I confess to getting a lot of pleasure out of convincing women to go back on their insistence that "there's NO way we're having sex tonight." Having done precisely what I'm describing above—bringing out my best in hopes of bringing out their wildest—I can't help but relish it if my date caves on her early commitment. But you know what? It made the actual act better for me—and the evening more fun overall. And for her? She got a few hours of me trying my hardest, and probably got better boot-knocking than she would have had we just sloshed back to my place and done it. Even if you find yourself saying yes after an evening of saying no, your time in bed (and the date as a whole) will benefit from whatever deferral you were able to muster. The fact is: If you're compatible, you'll eventually make it to sex, but the longer you put it off (as long as nobody is getting too impatient), the better you'll be at all the non-sexual parts of loving—all the stuff that adds and enriches the sublime dance—and that will pay dividends down the line.
Who Goes On Double Date Just To Blog On It.......I DO!!!!
Double Dates
So I recently went on a double date with the purpose of blogging about it. My date, I met back in December and took her number around the same time but I never even called her till mid January. (More on when to call after getting a number later) Anyway, she had a very hot friend that I thought my friend would want to talk to so hence the double date. The most important thing to remember in a double date is everyone needs to have a good time. One couple not having a good time can ruin the other couple’s chemistry. It is also important to not outshine anyone else. For instance, don’t try and monopolize the conversation which may make your friend look really quiet. Anyway let’s see if I follow my own guidelines.
My boy and I picked up the ladies about 30 minutes late. Unfortunately, it was Peel Regional Polices fault because I was pulled over and detained I should have known that this was going to be a bad idea. Since we were already late we didn’t get to the movie in time. Before going to the movie these two females wanted us to run a footrace to the movie theatre doors. What are we 5? Obviously I didn’t partake in it because I thought it was immature. In theatre, these girls talked and screamed throughout the movie The Crazies even though I didn’t think it was that crazy or scary. The ending was crap. So after the movie we went to Demetrys the infamous desert spot. Dates are won and lost on conversation. Good conversation is always important for chemistry. On this day its becoming obvious that the Black Berry is killing conversation. These two females were constantly on their black berry messenger actually messaging each other. The best part of the evening was when they went to the washroom together to talk about us, simultaneously, giving me and my boy a chance to strategize and decide if we should leave early. We did not and continued to engage in conversation.
During the ride home my boy asked my date what her friend though of him and her response was well she went out with you in public so she must like you which my boy found hilarious since it was more the other way around.
So I dropped everyone home leaving my date last as to get some alone time with her and to give her flowers I had in my trunk. I purposely left them there as to not make my boy look bad since he didn’t’ give his date anything.
Overall, despite the immaturity of the ladies I gave it an overall of a 6.5/10. The reason I say that is because the ladies were not really ones I would go out with. I know this sounds cocky but they weren’t on me and my boy’s level. They were really ghetto. However, their bodies boosted the score and the date wasn’t a disaster.
So I recently went on a double date with the purpose of blogging about it. My date, I met back in December and took her number around the same time but I never even called her till mid January. (More on when to call after getting a number later) Anyway, she had a very hot friend that I thought my friend would want to talk to so hence the double date. The most important thing to remember in a double date is everyone needs to have a good time. One couple not having a good time can ruin the other couple’s chemistry. It is also important to not outshine anyone else. For instance, don’t try and monopolize the conversation which may make your friend look really quiet. Anyway let’s see if I follow my own guidelines.
My boy and I picked up the ladies about 30 minutes late. Unfortunately, it was Peel Regional Polices fault because I was pulled over and detained I should have known that this was going to be a bad idea. Since we were already late we didn’t get to the movie in time. Before going to the movie these two females wanted us to run a footrace to the movie theatre doors. What are we 5? Obviously I didn’t partake in it because I thought it was immature. In theatre, these girls talked and screamed throughout the movie The Crazies even though I didn’t think it was that crazy or scary. The ending was crap. So after the movie we went to Demetrys the infamous desert spot. Dates are won and lost on conversation. Good conversation is always important for chemistry. On this day its becoming obvious that the Black Berry is killing conversation. These two females were constantly on their black berry messenger actually messaging each other. The best part of the evening was when they went to the washroom together to talk about us, simultaneously, giving me and my boy a chance to strategize and decide if we should leave early. We did not and continued to engage in conversation.
During the ride home my boy asked my date what her friend though of him and her response was well she went out with you in public so she must like you which my boy found hilarious since it was more the other way around.
So I dropped everyone home leaving my date last as to get some alone time with her and to give her flowers I had in my trunk. I purposely left them there as to not make my boy look bad since he didn’t’ give his date anything.
Overall, despite the immaturity of the ladies I gave it an overall of a 6.5/10. The reason I say that is because the ladies were not really ones I would go out with. I know this sounds cocky but they weren’t on me and my boy’s level. They were really ghetto. However, their bodies boosted the score and the date wasn’t a disaster.
Breaking Down The Game....Vol. 3..Steve Francis Syndrome
Steve Francis Syndrome
Every once in a while there are individuals who believe they are so great that they won’t want to play for your team. This is the Steve Francis Syndrome. Don’t let this happen to you in your pursuit of a high pick make sure you make yourself attractive enough to them so they will want to play for you or else you will get burned like the Vancouver Grizzlies. Sadly when people behave like my Francis did like they are the greatest thing ever it comes back to haunt them. After everything he did Francis only lasted like six seasons and now no one will sign him because of his injury. So Karma is a female dog.
Tuesday, March 2, 2010
Breaking Down The Game....Vol. 2...Rankings/Sleeper Picks
Rankings
The ranking part of the draft is actually quite complex. Individuals can be ranked from first round to second round based on a variety of traits and particularly what you yourself are looking for. For example, someone like Halle Berry would be a number 1 pick many men desire her, however, only one lucky person can get her. The interesting part of the ranking is unlike in sports where a crappy team gets a good pick, in life you need to have good game to attract a number one to your team or you yourself have to be very desirable. Basically what I’m saying is that people often form relationships with someone within their league. However, as usual, everything I say is not set in stone, just permanent marker therefore it is possible for someone with nothing going for them could score a hot chick/dude. For instance, look at Janet Jackson and Jermaine Durpri he gave hope to short unattractive people everywhere because he got Janet Jackson. There are a multitude of personalities or traits that will influence what you consider someone who is a top ten pick.
Sleeper Picks and Potential
Like the draft there are things that can never be accounted for that potential mess things up. Remember Michael Jordan wasn’t even drafted as number 1 overall and he ended up being the best player ever. A person with greater potential maybe overlooked by individuals of the opposite sex, however, if you see something no one else sees you can easily luck out and end up with someone you are very happy with. Remember Ryan Miller from the Olympics he was selected in the Fifth Round but who is now consi For instance, if your boyfriend is broke but he is doing an MBA for instance his potential income is higher than the guy who works customer service at Apple. If you weigh income as very significant its obvious who you go after. Remember there are many sleeper picks who may not be the most attractive options at first glance but end up exceeding everyone's expectations such as Whoopi Goldberg and Seal.
The ranking part of the draft is actually quite complex. Individuals can be ranked from first round to second round based on a variety of traits and particularly what you yourself are looking for. For example, someone like Halle Berry would be a number 1 pick many men desire her, however, only one lucky person can get her. The interesting part of the ranking is unlike in sports where a crappy team gets a good pick, in life you need to have good game to attract a number one to your team or you yourself have to be very desirable. Basically what I’m saying is that people often form relationships with someone within their league. However, as usual, everything I say is not set in stone, just permanent marker therefore it is possible for someone with nothing going for them could score a hot chick/dude. For instance, look at Janet Jackson and Jermaine Durpri he gave hope to short unattractive people everywhere because he got Janet Jackson. There are a multitude of personalities or traits that will influence what you consider someone who is a top ten pick.
Sleeper Picks and Potential
Like the draft there are things that can never be accounted for that potential mess things up. Remember Michael Jordan wasn’t even drafted as number 1 overall and he ended up being the best player ever. A person with greater potential maybe overlooked by individuals of the opposite sex, however, if you see something no one else sees you can easily luck out and end up with someone you are very happy with. Remember Ryan Miller from the Olympics he was selected in the Fifth Round but who is now consi For instance, if your boyfriend is broke but he is doing an MBA for instance his potential income is higher than the guy who works customer service at Apple. If you weigh income as very significant its obvious who you go after. Remember there are many sleeper picks who may not be the most attractive options at first glance but end up exceeding everyone's expectations such as Whoopi Goldberg and Seal.
Breaking Down The Game....Vol. 1..Scouting/Training
Getting a girlfriend/boyfriend is kind of a like any sports draft. Before you put the person on your team aka make them your boyfriend/girlfriend there is a lot of stuff that must be done.
Scouting
During the period where you are getting to know them you are actually watching them to see how they would perform and behave in certain situations. In some cases you have been watching them for a while.
Training Days
These are normally the initial dates that are used to see if this person really is a good fit for you/your team. Sometimes people perform badly in these initial dates and end up being disregarded. In this stage, therefore patience is a virtue. You don’t want to get rid of someone before they really show what they can do. However, assuming the dates are going horribly get rid of the person and scout some new players. .
Scouting
During the period where you are getting to know them you are actually watching them to see how they would perform and behave in certain situations. In some cases you have been watching them for a while.
Training Days
These are normally the initial dates that are used to see if this person really is a good fit for you/your team. Sometimes people perform badly in these initial dates and end up being disregarded. In this stage, therefore patience is a virtue. You don’t want to get rid of someone before they really show what they can do. However, assuming the dates are going horribly get rid of the person and scout some new players. .
O.P.P.
OPP stands for Other People’s Property which means if something belongs to someone else don’t touch it. Basically, I’m talking about those people that specifically go after a person who already has a boyfriend or girlfriend. Why do people even do that? Nine times out of ten the person won’t leave their original boyfriend/girlfriend to start a relationship with you. More times, you become just a person on the side. Are you proud of yourself?
THINGS YOU SHOULDN'T DO IF YOUR THE PERSON ON THE SIDE
1.Writing implicit Facebook messages on the wall of the person you are having an affair with.
2.Trying to get some public display of affection. Even Bill Clinton never kissed Monica Lewinksy in public.
3.Stalking people aka calling multiple times per day, showing up unannounced or without an invite. If he/she didn’t answer the first time why do you think if you call from a private number they will answer?
4.Telling him you are pregnant especially when you know you really are not.
5. Getting upset when he/she starts hanging out with their actual boyfriend/girlfriend/partner more than you. This is called the OJ Simpson Affect.
In case you wondered where the title of this blog came from...Here's some old school for you
Thursday, February 25, 2010
Make the Right Choice
Make the right choice.
So I’m back again to talk about knowing the qualities you want in a person before making a relationship with them and also being able to accept the person you have chosen.
I’m hearing a lot young girls want a thug/gangster that is going to treat them properly. Thug, who treats you properly? Isn’t that an oxymoron? (Rhetorical question and if you don’t know what oxymoron means sue the Ministry of Education). There is no logic in saying I want a “gangsta.” Thugs will not treat you properly. Isn’t a thug and a great guy exactly what Rihanna wanted? Now look at her Chris took her Umbrella-ella—ella-eh-eh-eh and beat her with it. Bet the next guy she picks will be less DMX and more Anderson Cooper.
Men, if you have an idea of the qualities you want don’t let a big butt and smile change your thinking.. I hear guys all the time saying I don’t want to be with a girl who already has a kid. Yeah and then that same dude is Facebooked at Wonderland riding the Tea-cups with his girl and her child. If you knew this is what not what you wanted why pursue it? There is no chance she is going to put you ahead of her child. It’s a package deal my friend. Like Matt Damon and Ben Affleck in the late 90’s. People only wanted Matt Damon in the movie but you are going to have to settle with his friend Affleck as well. However, if you really like her suck it up and make friends with her child aka little Jimmy/Jane Bastard. I know what your thinking hey she lied to me I started to like her and made her my girlfriend before I knew about her child. Well my friends ask yourself if she hid something like this from you, what else could she be hiding? (Food served at Red Lobster?Crabs??)
I hate seeing people say I want a girl/guy that’s really hot. The question is can you handle it? If your significant other is hotter than you be prepared for other people to look at them and so stop being jealous. You asked for it didn’t you?
Finally, to the people who want career-oriented individuals who are really ambitious and make a lot of money.. Shut up when they don’t come home at night because they have some super important work to do. You knew he/she cared more about their career than anything else when you met them and Zebra can’t change their stripes.
Final thoughts:
Make some realistic choices people and pick proper qualities because in the end it is you whose stuck with a person who you don’t like and have to figure out a way to get out of the relationship.
So I’m back again to talk about knowing the qualities you want in a person before making a relationship with them and also being able to accept the person you have chosen.
I’m hearing a lot young girls want a thug/gangster that is going to treat them properly. Thug, who treats you properly? Isn’t that an oxymoron? (Rhetorical question and if you don’t know what oxymoron means sue the Ministry of Education). There is no logic in saying I want a “gangsta.” Thugs will not treat you properly. Isn’t a thug and a great guy exactly what Rihanna wanted? Now look at her Chris took her Umbrella-ella—ella-eh-eh-eh and beat her with it. Bet the next guy she picks will be less DMX and more Anderson Cooper.
Men, if you have an idea of the qualities you want don’t let a big butt and smile change your thinking.. I hear guys all the time saying I don’t want to be with a girl who already has a kid. Yeah and then that same dude is Facebooked at Wonderland riding the Tea-cups with his girl and her child. If you knew this is what not what you wanted why pursue it? There is no chance she is going to put you ahead of her child. It’s a package deal my friend. Like Matt Damon and Ben Affleck in the late 90’s. People only wanted Matt Damon in the movie but you are going to have to settle with his friend Affleck as well. However, if you really like her suck it up and make friends with her child aka little Jimmy/Jane Bastard. I know what your thinking hey she lied to me I started to like her and made her my girlfriend before I knew about her child. Well my friends ask yourself if she hid something like this from you, what else could she be hiding? (Food served at Red Lobster?Crabs??)
I hate seeing people say I want a girl/guy that’s really hot. The question is can you handle it? If your significant other is hotter than you be prepared for other people to look at them and so stop being jealous. You asked for it didn’t you?
Finally, to the people who want career-oriented individuals who are really ambitious and make a lot of money.. Shut up when they don’t come home at night because they have some super important work to do. You knew he/she cared more about their career than anything else when you met them and Zebra can’t change their stripes.
Final thoughts:
Make some realistic choices people and pick proper qualities because in the end it is you whose stuck with a person who you don’t like and have to figure out a way to get out of the relationship.
Monday, February 22, 2010
Don't Do This...If You Must Cheat
To continue on yesterday's post like I said don't leave any evidence...Hey Tiger are you listening? So the following clip is something you shouldn't do. What kind of idiot leaves their name? Does he know a bunch of other guys named Tiger so that when his wife heard the voicemail he could say "Hey that isn't me its the other Tiger."
Speaking on Tiger, what was with the whole rehearsed apology? He said he didn't think the rules applied to him. Who do you think you are Tiger? Jesus? A Terminator? Your a regular guy that is the greatest golfer ever not some guy who walks on water. I like the fact that he admitted that he went to sex therapy for 45 days.....yeah thats really gonna help him fix his "sex" issues. Lets be real he didn't have a problem he was a famous athlete who had ridiculous amounts of women thrown at him and did what most of us (all though we won't admit it) would do go crazy. He will probably do it again but be way more diligent about it. However, I won't beat up on Tiger because despite what he said we all know his wife beat up on him with the golf club. So let me talk about his wife a bit. Once a cheater, always a cheater so I'm sure she knew that Tiger was cheating from a long time and she did nothing. Most people know when their partner is cheating they just are in denial. She knew what she was doing but just latched on to him because he's the money train. Eventually, all the cheating would come out and she files for divorce and receives money for the rest of her life. So let's wait and see if the divorce comes and I prove to be right but with the ridiculous millions shes already received she might just stay on.
Speaking on Tiger, what was with the whole rehearsed apology? He said he didn't think the rules applied to him. Who do you think you are Tiger? Jesus? A Terminator? Your a regular guy that is the greatest golfer ever not some guy who walks on water. I like the fact that he admitted that he went to sex therapy for 45 days.....yeah thats really gonna help him fix his "sex" issues. Lets be real he didn't have a problem he was a famous athlete who had ridiculous amounts of women thrown at him and did what most of us (all though we won't admit it) would do go crazy. He will probably do it again but be way more diligent about it. However, I won't beat up on Tiger because despite what he said we all know his wife beat up on him with the golf club. So let me talk about his wife a bit. Once a cheater, always a cheater so I'm sure she knew that Tiger was cheating from a long time and she did nothing. Most people know when their partner is cheating they just are in denial. She knew what she was doing but just latched on to him because he's the money train. Eventually, all the cheating would come out and she files for divorce and receives money for the rest of her life. So let's wait and see if the divorce comes and I prove to be right but with the ridiculous millions shes already received she might just stay on.
Sunday, February 21, 2010
Mr. Giambrone, You Are Not a Player
For someone who was considered such a bright young mind in politics, how could you be so stupid? Did you think that having an affair with a 19 year old would be kept quiet? Come on man she was 19 she had nothing to lose so she was bound to expose you. Giving her free metro passes and insider TTC information would never be enough. Did you really think that telling her in advance that the St. George station escalators were going to be out of service for a week would keep her quiet? Unfortunately, it seems like your political career ended before it really got going. However if your going to come back and try again in the future and you really want to cheat again here is what I suggest (cheaters please pay attention).
1. Cover your tracks. All those text messages she saved and facebook messages really did you in. Keep all contact face-to-face or if you have to plan a face-to-face conversation do it over the phone in 20 seconds or less. So that if you ever get when the phone bills come in and your partner asks you why you called that number your excuse is you dialled the wrong number.
2. Stop going after young females. She was 13 years younger than you or maybe more but they are always the first ones to look for press and create names for themselves look at Tiger Woods and R.Kelly. A more mature individual wouldn’t want people to know they were having an affair with the chair of the TTC because at that age you’re expected to know better.
3. Stop lying to everyone particularly the women you have affairs with. You lied to the Kristen Lucas and she specifically went to the Toronto Star citing the fact you lied about having a partner as the main reason she ended your career. Ever heard of Ashley Madison.com??
4. Don’t deny unless you know she has no real evidence. Saying your relationship was merely face-to-face interaction with nothing really appropriate occurring especially when you knew she had evidence was stupid. If you test a female she will call your bluff and that’s exactly what she did.
Tuesday, February 2, 2010
Things You Shoudn't Do On The First Date....Vol. 1
I'm back again to wreak havoc. Everything I post is based on experience or eye witness accounts. So I present to you things you shouldn't do on the first date volume 1.
1. Go on the date in your work clothes, especially, if you work at Footlocker (unless your going to a Halloween party) or McDonald's. Nobody wants to go out with someone smelling like Combo Number 3 aka a McChicken.
2. Show up to the date with your child. (TRUE STORY)I mean could you really not get a babysitter.
3. Pick up your date with someone else in the car ie your mom. And then to proceed to have your mom drive the two of you on a date and pick you up later. This is embarrassing particularly if your 21+
4. Flirt with other people. At least for one night be on your best behaviour.
5. Make the date at "your house" when you live in your parents' basement and there is no separate entrance to the basement. That says a lot about you. Maybe your too cheap to go out. Way to make a great impression El Cheapo.
6. Ask your date to go with you to pick up your kids. No one wants to meet your kids on the first date.
1. Go on the date in your work clothes, especially, if you work at Footlocker (unless your going to a Halloween party) or McDonald's. Nobody wants to go out with someone smelling like Combo Number 3 aka a McChicken.
2. Show up to the date with your child. (TRUE STORY)I mean could you really not get a babysitter.
3. Pick up your date with someone else in the car ie your mom. And then to proceed to have your mom drive the two of you on a date and pick you up later. This is embarrassing particularly if your 21+
4. Flirt with other people. At least for one night be on your best behaviour.
5. Make the date at "your house" when you live in your parents' basement and there is no separate entrance to the basement. That says a lot about you. Maybe your too cheap to go out. Way to make a great impression El Cheapo.
6. Ask your date to go with you to pick up your kids. No one wants to meet your kids on the first date.
Monday, February 1, 2010
Where Are All The Guys???
Disclaimer: The following may be crass or controversial. But it is still my opinion.
I always hear a lot of women complaining they can’t find any good men. Looking for a quality man is like police and racial profiling, if you don’t go to the right areas, you are not going to get anyone you want. Meeting someone at the club while your drunk isn’t the best option because the man is only there for one reason and it isn’t to pick up a wife. Men don’t sit around at home thinking hey lets all go to the club tonight to look for a woman we can have long term relationships with. Furthermore, some of you need to stop giving your number out to every guy in the club, especially to the same group of friends. I know you feel like your being friendly and you will increase your odds of getting a man …..but for everyone else that sees you in club you r coming across toooooo friendly (Get it? Rhymes with crank?? See picture above). When giving your number out in a place such as a mall try not to put so much stock in it. Most of the time these interactions never involve much of a conversation beyond the superficial sense therefore someone has asked you for your number based solely on your looks.Do you really want someone to ask for your number based upon what you look like or you in its entirety? (Rhetorical Question Don’t Answer). However, there are exceptions to my opinion so don’t crucify me over this.
How about trying to meet people in places that you have an interest in? I know it is easier said than done but hey its my opinion and you are reading it. Assuming you are religious try the Church or your other place of worship. If you like food or cooking, try a supermarket. Enjoy working out, try the gym. I can go on and on. But I won’t list anymore. Be creative. At least then you have something in common to build or, rather than a physical one that won’t last as long.
Alright I’m done I’m going to the bar to go look for my next wife.
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