Things You Shoudln't Do On The First Date....Vol. 2

Top Ten things NEVER to do on a first date !

1. DON'T wear something you don't feel drop dead gorgeous in.
How much fun can you have if you have to monitor how many bites of food because just one more might be the fatal one that bursts the seams on your skintight dress- like the Hoover Dam? And always having to remember not to raise your arm no matter what happens is no picnic because your last clean shirt has a hole in the armpit and you haven't seen a sewing kit since you last visited your grandmother in Toluca Lake...Why, that would be worse than this run-on sentence.



2. DON'T wear colored contacts on a first date.
One of my guy friends told me a story of a first date with a lovely women who possessed, you guessed it, the most beautiful eyes... He made sure to compliment her eyes more than once, and after that first date, they agreed to see each other again. Sure enough, the next time he saw her, he noticed that her eyes were just an average shade of gray, nothing special, (which was fine), but he had felt so embarrassed praising her on something that wasn't really hers, I guess it stuck with him, and they eventually drifted apart.

3. DON'T mention your last boyfriend/girlfriend six hundred times.
For that matter, don't mention anyone else of the opposite sex if you can help it. I remember one of my worst dates with a guy who had managed to talk about four different women he implied were interested in him at the time. Needless to say, that was the last date he had with me. It just comes off as insecurity. If the other person is on the date with you, chances are they find some value in you. You don't need to point out the fact that you are, in fact, desired by all.

4. DON'T talk about yourself too much.
It's true that one of the best ways you can get some one to pay rapt attention to you is to ask them lots of questions about themselves. It's amazing how well this works. Yet when you're nervous, you might have a tendency to babble on about your life endlessly, as you don't have to think that much to pull that information out of your head. And of course, we all know not to do this when we think about it. I can't remember ever hearing "Gee, she only wanted to talk about ME all night!...how boring!"

5. DON'T talk wistfully about how many children you'd like to have...
I've known men and women alike who do this. I feel it's important to find out if a possible relationship candidate shares your goals, but save it for a few dates down the line, after you've decided that you might actually have the potential to get along with this new person. Just concentrate on having fun for now!