Sex On The First Date???? Ummmm Sure

There is always two perspective and standards in regards to this topic. Usually women who give it up on first date are seen as hos or labelled as “easy.” Meanwhile, men are labelled as players for behaving in the same manner. Do I agree with this? Not necessarily but such as life and therefore double standards exist which me should probably do something about but don’t. That being said, I will look at these two dynamics without bias.

If you’re a woman, should you have sex on the first date? No you shouldn’t. However, as usual what I say is just my opinion. There are reasons to this madness though. First of all guys talk, and the moment you have sex with him all his friends know and your name is going to get around as the girl that’s easy. Therefore, guys won’t really want to go out with you but they would merely try and date you with the hopes of smashing. If you really have respect for yourself then you won’t do it.

Moreover, it takes away the challenge for guys and the whole mystique. Part of the fun of finally having sex with someone is the actual chase. When that’s’ gone its not the same. Well I lie it still is the same but there is less fun in it. To the women who do it because they hope guys will like them more (I don’t want to sound like an after school special) but…….that is stupid and your eventually going to be on Maury Povich.

To all the guys who have do that. Congratulations. However, just remember this, would you want someone to do that to your sister, or mom or aunt? Also, if you smashed on the first date how many people do you think she’s done that with already. Wait, was this too bias?

This doesn’t mean a woman can’t act like men and have sex with guys on the first date if she really wants to. She just has to be prepared for the consequences and repercussions like the rumours and the gossip.


The challenge of course is willpower. I confess to getting a lot of pleasure out of convincing women to go back on their insistence that "there's NO way we're having sex tonight." Having done precisely what I'm describing above—bringing out my best in hopes of bringing out their wildest—I can't help but relish it if my date caves on her early commitment. But you know what? It made the actual act better for me—and the evening more fun overall. And for her? She got a few hours of me trying my hardest, and probably got better boot-knocking than she would have had we just sloshed back to my place and done it. Even if you find yourself saying yes after an evening of saying no, your time in bed (and the date as a whole) will benefit from whatever deferral you were able to muster. The fact is: If you're compatible, you'll eventually make it to sex, but the longer you put it off (as long as nobody is getting too impatient), the better you'll be at all the non-sexual parts of loving—all the stuff that adds and enriches the sublime dance—and that will pay dividends down the line.